The Key to Discovering Purpose
The Key to Discovering Purpose
By Dina Vitantonio
Through my years as an Energy Therapist, the most popular question I’ve been asked is “how do I find my purpose?”. It’s a question that takes one years to discover, lifetimes for others, and for some never at all. However, I have found those who’ve uncovered and live their purpose seem to demonstrate a deep connection within themselves. These individuals appear to have a calmness, an understanding of who they are, a universal relativeness. Some have reported their purpose came about as a series of synchronistic events. Others share a feeling of being in union with something greater, as if a higher realm is guiding their life, organically unfolding toward a specific direction.
During one of my sessions with a long time client, we began talking about some of the struggles she experienced around not feeling fulfilled. She was equating her recent challenges with a lack of purpose. When I asked what made her associate the two, she expressed “my biggest worry is being insignificant…” I was surprised to hear her utter these words, as she was successful in her career and enjoyed it.
Following our call, I spent days reflecting on what it was about “purpose” that made my client and many others strive or stress to achieve this thing we place so much value on. Was there a simple formula to locate our purpose and was it less complicated than we thought? Has our society placed too much emphasis on this “treasure” that we overlook some basic understanding in recognizing it? We hear life coaches, advisors and motivational speakers telling us the necessity of finding our purpose. So, what’s the big fuss?
According to Anthony L. Burrow, Human Development specialist, a sense of purpose is integral to the human experience… “Purpose is a forward-looking directionality, an intention to do something in the world… It’s different than a goal, which can be accomplished.”
Experience shows, when we complete a task we feel happy and fulfilled, often temporarily, as it’s transactional. In contrast when we are purpose-driven, we are consistently more confident, have meaning and our focus shifts outside of us to include others.
One morning while meditating, I was reminded of my client’s concern, “insignificance”. So, I decided to look up the word’s meaning. According to Webster’s and Columbia dictionaries, Significance is… having meaning, influence, importance and a noticeable effect; a measurement. Based on this, significance is directly linked to how a person views our idea, action or mission. In much of the same way, my client’s struggle was not really about her need to achieve; instead, it was a deep human desire, we all share, to connect with one another and make a difference in their lives. Similarly, Purpose is not about individual achievements recognized as significant but rather a ripple effect.
How many times have you done a deed for someone from the kindest of your heart, without motive. How often does that generosity get multiplied through you and every other person you reach or serve that day. Finding our purpose is like this. As humans our need to interact and share as part of our primordial make up: to give, receive and feel love.
So when we engage in something that is driven by a heart-centered approach you are already on your way. Purpose is where the heart leads you without hindrance from inner or outer distractions; and, before you know it, you arrive at your destination or find yourself standing right in the middle of it, without evening knowing. To be purposeful, we must have a soulful and soul-filled action that is only driven by a purity of desire.
In recent years, as a society, we have become more isolated than ever before. Naturally, isolation or loneliness can void us of feeling purposeful. To combat this, the key is creating healthy impressions through actions based on selfless service and human connectivity.
For instance, if you naturally enjoy writing, then start putting pen to paper and sharing your words. Those who resonate with your message will be called to read more. People who are great communicators need to speak to everyone who’ll listen. Those who feel your sincerity will be drawn to hear your wisdom. Actions such as these send an S.O.S. to the Universe signaling a deep desire, conscious or unconscious, to fill a greater Universal need. And before you know it, the spark of a purpose is ignited, reverberating outwardly for others to enjoy. This is the true role of purpose— a gift that keeps on giving.
So how can we connect to our purpose?
First, you must start by doing the things you remember doing as a child. Take the actions you naturally felt called to partake in before the age of seven. And I don’t mean sit in the sandbox making castles. Do some deep soul reflective work, ask family members and friends who have known you for years. Ask them to recall what you loved to do or talk about that was unique to you. This is how we start connecting our higher self with our conscious awareness. The things we often found ourselves engaging in without effort are usually clues from our guidance speaking through us and being expressed outwardly. This expression can take the form of writing, singing, dancing, or drawing. For some it reveals itself through music, art, the sciences, or any number of creative fields. When we do these activities, we express our soul-filled path. We feel a sense of fullness, contentment, and completion.
Developmentally, by the time we are seven years old, our behaviors have already been established. We are set in many of our ideas and beliefs. We tend to get involved in life, discover friends and spend less time following the things that organically call out to us. We grow up and start to experience life.
For instance, ever since I was a young girl, I recalled feeling so compelled to write. I was creating books with beautiful inspiring stories. I even remember bonding the pages together with staples and finishing it off with a specially designed cover by yours truly. It use to bring me so much joy and happiness. Who knew that years later and lots of energy work would lead me to one of the most healing and authentically centering and uplifting activities that makes my heart sing, writing. And to think, I recall doing this at the age of five or six on my own. Naturally, I was impressed upon.
Now is the time to connect to your gifts and embrace your childhood and Intuitive guidance. When you do, you just may take an entirely new and different direction in you life; and inspire many others in the process.
Happy Re-Discovery!
Dina is a Professional Energy Therapist and Intuitive Coach, working and guiding people all around the world. Since a young child Dina had the gift of insight. For years, this drew her to study the Science of Energy, also known as Metaphysical Science, under the tutelage of some of the world’s most accomplished persons, especially adept in the world of ancient and esoteric knowledge. Through her studies she developed her signature work, Energy Mapping, which ties in the energetic-wisdom of emotional, physical, and spiritual therapy. Dina’s mission is to help people recognize their power and potential to aid in their healing while raising the consciousness of the collective. She is a natural leader and teacher living in New York City.